By Counter Balance
North Americans are not able to handle with sexuality,
especially not if it concerns children or teenagers.
A pick out of the news items.
We don't mention the many reports telling about parents who have made photos of their child in the tube or on the beach, and who were accused of making child porn, this committing sexual abuse. Professor James R. Kincaid writes about these cases.
North Americans cannot accept a child's nudeness. It seems
that children are born there with jeans.
But nearly everybody has a rifle.
Raoul, a Swish boy, was eleven. He had helped his younger sister
making water. A neighbor woman saw this and called the police. Raoul was
incarcerated for months, questioned for hours and accused of incest. This could
lead to long imprisonment.
Thanks to his Swish passport and world-wide protests, the family could
escape to Switzerland.
Source: about half of the European newspapers from August 1999 until the end of
1999.
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A fourteen-year old boy cuddled a sixteen-year old girl on
her trousers in a cafetaria. This is an offence. |
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Two girls, fourteen and fifteen, cuddled each other in a
school's hall. This was against the code. It is inappropriate behavrior. They
were punished by detention slips. |
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On an elementairy school in Winnipeg, Manitot, cuddling is
forbidden behavior. Also to the older children, this is forbidden. It should
be a bad example for the younger ones. |
A two-year-old girl ran naked into the garden, trying to catch
the cat. Her brother sent her quickly inside the home again. It was only a few
seconds, but this is exhibitionism.
The same day, 'social' workers claimed access to the house to question the other
children of the family. The parents refused - that is: they 'refused cooperation
in a case of child sexual abuse', which is a crime.
The court declared that it had been quite worse if the toddler had been running
on the street, the public domain, instead of in the garden, a private
domain.
Source: US news item, 12 March 2001.
York haven, Pa., was thrown into confusion when was discovered
that 17 children between 7 and 16 year old had 'played sex' in the woods. The
youngest children did not understand what happened and couldn't give clear
statements. The older children said they had done this voluntary and with
pleasure; they didn't see any wrong in it.
For the adults, the main question was: "Who was the offender, who
the victim?" The combinations had changed frequently.
This is the way of thinking of adults, and this way of thinking caused a
problem. The offender has to be dealt with severely in an offenders'
clinic; the victims had to get a more mild treatment in another
clinic.
Source: Philadelphia Inquirer, 9 August 1999.
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A fifteen-year-old girl kissed her teacher on his lips. The
latter does not prevent this; this kind of kissing was quite normal. The
teacher was convicted and had to receive three years of imprisoned
treatment. The girl also has to receive treatment because she doesn't see
any wrong in the kissing. For the court, she declares she loves her teacher;
she cries. Thus, the court concluded she was 'mentally distorted'. |
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a nine-year-old boy kisses a five-year-old girl on her
breast. This is an indecent act. Also the parents were accused,
because the court supposed that they had taught the boy to kiss that way. Of
course, no nine-year-old boy should ever do so unless taught. |
A teacher has to go to prison for four year because of sex with
a 15-year-old student. The girl said she loved the man and saw herself not as a
victim. When the man will be frree, he will marry the girl, then twenty.
Source: Associated Press, 5 February 2001
A 33-year-old mother in Baraboo, Wisconsin, discovered that her
15-year-old son had sex. She gave him condoms and talked with him about safe
sex. This is a crime, which can cause the mother 15 years in prison and a
fee of $ 10,000. It is a crime because she has not prevented sexual abuse by her
son.
Source: US news item, 14 January 2001.
A 19-year old male, a model student from a model family, has
been convicted to 37 year in prison, to follow by 35 year of control and the ban
to ever use a computer. According to the law, the conviction could be 95 year.
This because of 'molesting' or showing pornography to some
13-year-old boys. It is forbidden to show any sexual activity to any child. This
is seen as 'molest'.
Source: Milwaukee Journal Sentinel, 16 June 2000.
Brian Dalto, a lonesome 22-year-old high school student, has
been convicted to seven year of prison because he had written in his diary
- and not published - his fantasies - no deeds at all - about sex with
young girls.
Source: The Village Voice, 4 September 2001 & America, 19 July 2001.
We have limited ourselves to a few summaries of news items
from the U.S. during a limited period of time. There are much more stories, also
from Canada, Great-Britain, Australia and New Zealand - all Anglo-Saxon
countries.
It is this Anglo-Saxon culture that cannot handle with sex, especially not if it
concernd children or teenagers.